Being honest with yourself… it’s something that most people refuse to do. Maybe it’s instinctual or natural response to not wanting to deal with reality. You’re making dating monotonous. It’s becoming typical and probably boring. Each person you meet becomes less and less interesting. Possibly, in part of the medium and the places you’re meeting some of them.

You cant meet someone when you’re tired of it all or if its a set-up of predictability… it prevents “raw-fire”…spontaneously being hit by an acme anvil…brutally painful, powerfully raw, piercing and unforgettable. You did mention buddhism…balance, stability… it seems you reached a stumping koan, not only with women but in “an ideal condition of rest and harmony” life…nirvana etc.

If samsara appears “distrusting,” “jaded,” or “false” in any sense to us, I think the fault lies with us, not samsara. Although it may wear the appearance of paradox.

In an attempt to give a reasonable account of our own personal attitude towards the more serious business of life, you philosophize when you reflect critically upon what you are actually doing in your world. What you are doing is of course, in the first place, living and life involves passions, faiths, doubts, and courage the critical inquiry into what all these things mean and imply is cyclical, its unending.

I would say something along the lines of brutal advice, but coming from someone like me, on a personal scale, it leans towards hypocrisy. Then falls into a pile of ‘futility’ that we all seem to have and for some odd reason, we still hold on to.

Advice, GENERALLY speaking: less lip service paid to higher values.
In meeting someone: the sparks, significance, care and all, takes patience and willingness to risk personal time.
and last of all: pause, occasionally stall, but ultimately…
stay true, suck it up, and keep going.